I think there’s something about “possibilities” that makes us excited — looking at a map and seeing all the places we could go, looking at a list of classes and seeing what the semester ahead could entail, walking into a library and seeing all of the books that we could read next….but that’s the key – “could.” We see a multi-faceted, many-colored tapestry in front of us, and we become excited.
But ultimately, we can only choose one reality. We can only go down one path. And if we try to do all of the things, we may end up with nothing. Or if we take too long to choose, we may also end up with nothing. The longer we stay at a crossroads, taunted by the multitudes of possibilities in front of us, but afraid to let them go by choosing only one, the more they begin to slip away from us. Not choosing means wasting time, and the more time we spend choosing, the more time we’re spending not pursuing any of them.
So, it’s better just to choose one, even if we’re uncertain. Choose one and then try it, and even if it doesn’t work, that doesn’t mean the others are all off the table. We can try one path, decide that it’s not what we want to pursue, and take a decision to go in a different direction. The key is to not stand still and wait. We’ve got to take action, and only through action do we actually learn what we want and don’t want.
And the key thing about this is that, as long as we truly are listening to ourselves to understand what we like and don’t like and taking action accordingly, at each inflection point or fork in the road, the tapestry of possibilities in front of becomes increasingly more tailored to what we actually may want…more tailored to us. So the choices in front of us become better and better.
The key thing is to simply do something. Take action to gain information. There is no right or wrong, only the gain of information with each step.